The TV personality opens up about being sexually assaulted by someone whom she has a relationship with as she talks to Jada Pinkett Smith about sexual consent.
- Oct 21, 2020
AceShowbiz - Amber Rose shared her experience with nonconsensual sex during her visit to Jada Pinkett Smith's "Red Table Talk". The 36-year-old TV personality, who previously dated rappers like Kanye West, Wiz Khalifa, and 21 Savage, opened up about being raped by a boyfriend when she told him she wanted to called off their relationship.
"He ripped my clothes off, I felt icky, I felt gross, I felt I was taken advantage of. It was terrible. Then he went downstairs and had breakfast, like he didn't do anything," she said. "The gray area in that situation is, I had sex with him so many times within these two years, I didn't fully understand what had happened but I know what I felt like after."
A mother of two sons one of whom is 7 years old, Amber made sure her little boy knew about boundaries and always respected the women around him.
"He's very curious now and now he's like, 'Mom, you got a jiggly butt,' and he'll come behind me and jiggly my butt and I'm like, 'Sebastian, I know you're playing and I know you love me and I'm your mom, but that's your private area,' " she said.
"And I tell him, with other girls … because when he goes to his dad's house - his dad's a rapper, there's a different dynamic over there, Wiz and I coparent very well, but it's different at my house. So I have conversations with him like, 'When you go to your dad's house, when you're at school, you don't touch these girls inappropriately. You don't touch them at all, period.' "
Another "Red Table" guest, Rumer Willis, also had a similar experience. "When I came back to LA when I was 15, 16, everyone out here was having sex. They didn't put pressure on me, but I did, because I felt so inexperienced and I just needed to catch up," she explained.
"When I lost my virginity when I was 18, I was more concerned with the shame I was feeling of not having done it. I was not abused, it wasn't rape, but I didn't say yes, I wasn't gung-ho about it, but I also didn't say no, I just let it happen. He was older, he took advantage and didn't check in. That's where I feel like the men's responsibility is."
She ended up in another "uncomfortable" situation just a couple months ago when she invited her date into her house. "When I ask you to come in my house, that doesn't mean that you can get me naked, I'm saying you can come into my house," she said. "As soon as I got into my house it was like [hands everywhere] all my clothes off and then I just froze."
"I even have so much shame about bringing that up because I feel like I'm this empowered strong person. I could not say no, I could not say, 'I'm uncomfortable.' This is where I think it's on the male side of responsibility, there was no awareness from him of my discomfort. Even if I couldn't say anything, I was obviously uncomfortable and trying to shut it down, even though I couldn't say anything."
